univers-hole asked: How'd you get into bondage? What're your recommendations for a novice?
I don’t really remember how I got into it. I have a confidence issue so I was pretty willing to dive right in; however, I do have some tips for novices. In my experience I’ve found the best online site to meet guys in your area is recon.com. If you’re feeling nervous, I suggest talking to them online or on the phone until you don’t. You should definitely get coffee with them before going to a private place to meet. I also suggest telling a friend (or leaving a note somewhere discoverable if it’s an issue) where you are going. Don’t be afraid to say no, it’s an issue if somebody is making you do something you don’t want to do, and you’ll find out in time what you consider your limits. Play with a safe word until there is enough trust with the top to where he will readily stop if there’s an issue. I play with mostly the same guys over and over now, but when I started I used “tuxedo”. It should be a word that wouldn’t come up in play by itself (no “red” or “owww” or “thank you, please more.” Let me know if you have any other questions.
